Men & Women

Inside Taj Mahal, Agra, India

 

أملك من جرأة الحق والعقل لأقول بأن أحباء المصطفى ممن لم يدركوه ، هم من لم يحسنوا لغة الضاد ومتشابهاتها ، وعجموا عن اتباع ضلالات الفخر والهوى ، وتداولوا الاسلام منهج حياة دون شطط أو شتات ، وادركوا بالفعل والقول بأن الدين لله ، وأن أمة الأنبياء والمرسلين واحدة.. عليهم جميعاً صلوات الله وسلامه
I have the audacity of Righteousness and Epistemia to state that the Loved Ones of Al-Mustafa PBUH, are who have not eloquently spoken Arabic and mastered its controversies.. Are who have not followed Arabic delusions of pride and passion.. Are who have deliberated Islam as a way of life without excesses or distractions.. And who have literally realized How The Religion is only for Allah swt, and all Prophets and Messengers PBUT have a Singular Nation..
 Mawlid in Malaysia 2

 

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  1. adilsud says:

    I’m Happily Married, So Who Am I Trying to Impress When I Dress Up?

    It was a few short days away from my long anticipated weekend away with my girlfriends. We were going out East for the weekend and I was excited for many reasons. First, I was going away with one of my favorite groups of friends. Second, I hadn’t slept-in in, well, I can’t remember when the last time was over the past year. And last, I would temporarily be leaving my daily life and my family who I love so much and am eternally grateful to have, but “time outs” for any mother, especially for a whole weekend, is something of a rarity and one to celebrate.

    In order to prepare for the weekend festivities of laying beach side, dining out, and night time cocktails, I did what I believed to be necessary: I got my hair and nails done which was long overdue. So much so, that the gift certificate I had for the nail salon had already been expired by six months. Disheveled and rushed as usual, I walked into a woman’s clothing boutique that I don’t often shop at, except for special occasions, and told them that I was going out East for the weekend. Like fairy godmothers, they scurried around the store helping me find suitable articles of clothing. I came home happy and walked into my house armed with shopping bags, “Pretty Woman” style.

    READ: I Almost Didn’t Leave the House Because I *Was* Wearing Makeup

    My husband who was sitting on the couch looked up at me annoyed and rolled his eyes. He asked me who I was looking to impress and if I was looking to find another man while I was away. I’ve been married to my husband for 9 years, and together now for 15 years. I know his sarcasm and I also know that he is not the jealous type. He was likely more concerned about the amount of money and time that I spent in preparation for the weekend, rather than the possibility of me leaving him for someone else.

    But I thought about the question. Who was I looking to impress? I am happily married, and I am not just writing this because my husband reads my blogs. The friends I was going with, I have known for more than half of my life. They have all lived with me at one point, whether it was in college or when we were living in the city; they have seen me look questionable many times over the years.

    Most of us mothers and working women, myself included, do not lead fairytale lives or have the time to look glamorous on a daily basis. And for the few women that do, I don’t know how you do it. I am truly impressed. I have never been, nor will ever be, one of those people. The mornings in my house are total mayhem and pandemonium. Too many people need too many things and there is just no extra time to primp myself.

    READ: Having Daughters Helped Me Discover My Girly Side

    On my work-at-home days, I am the mother who rushes out of the house, last minute, racing my kids to the bus stop sometimes in a “get up” consisting of an aqua blue fleece robe and sweat pants. (On a side note, this happens to be one of the things that I swore I would never do.) On the days I that I go into the office, I am lucky if I am wearing matching socks, and I surely have someone’s breakfast on some part of my clothes. When I am out running errands in the evenings or on weekends, my hair is usually not blown out and pulled back in a bun. I am certainly not wearing make up of any kind. And I am totally cool with that. This is who I mostly am, at least at this point in my life.

    But on the evenings when I go out or the times I am away, whether it be with my husband or with friends, there is something different and special about that. These are the times when I can leave the daily chaos of deadlines, laundry, cooking, and rushing to be at ten activities at once, and get to put on a different hat, or in this case, different clothes.

    The few times when the stars align, and I am able to have my nails perfectly manicured, my hair smooth and my clothes new and shiny, I remind myself that when I try, I can still look and feel like my old self (with the exception of a few wrinkles and sags here and there).

    READ: Waxing My Lady Parts for the Sake of My Kids

    So after a really fantastic weekend away of feeling young and chic again, and with memories that I will cherish for a very long time, I came home to the madness and the adorable faces that I missed so much.

    Back in my sweats, I went back to mommyhood and all the chores that come along with it. Much later in the evening, I unpacked my weekend bag and folded away my fun clothes in my closet. I looked down and noticed that the nail polish had already chipped off some of my nails. Almost symbolically, the clock struck 12.

    Maybe most of us can’t look glamorous and live the fairytale lifestyle every day, but on those few times that we can, it feels pretty damn nice to dress up and go to the ball.

    Lisa A. Bloom lives on Long Island with her husband and three wonderful young daughters. She graduated from the State University of New York at Albany with a degree in English and Psychology and from Hofstra University School of Law. When she isn’t working or spending time with her family, Lisa enjoys writing and Barkan Yoga.

    http://www.kveller.com/im-happily-married-so-who-am-i-trying-to-impress-when-i-dress-up/?utm_source=Kveller+Newsletter&utm_campaign=774c3aa272-Kveller_8_20_20158_20_2015&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_eece40deea-774c3aa272-27462469

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  2. adilsud says:

    قال الحسن بن صالح: ” إن الشيطان يفتح للعبد تسعة وتسعين باباً من الخير يريد بها باباً من الشر “

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  3. adilsud says:

    The Rules of Modesty According to Five Islamic Schools of Law

    By: ‘Allamah Muhammad Jawad Maghniyyah

    “بِسْمِ اللَّـهِ الرَّحْمَـٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

    This issue is one of those from which numerous bylaws are derived, such as those specifying the parts of one’s body that must be covered (‘awrah) and the parts of another person’s body which it is haram to look at, those relating to the difference between maharim (relatives through lineage or marriage with whom marriage is prohibited) and non-maharim persons in this regard, the difference in this regard due to sameness or difference of sex, the difference between looking and touching and similar rules which are discussed below.

    1. Looking at One’s Own Body: The schools differ concerning covering of one’s ‘awrah (private parts) from one’s own view and whether it is haram for one to uncover one’s ‘awrah in privacy.

    The Hanafis and the Hanbalis observe: In the same way that it is not permissible for a person to expose his ‘awrah in the presence of anyone for whom it is not permissible to look at it, it is not permissible for him to expose it when alone without necessity, as arises at the time or bathing or answering the call of nature.

    The Malikis and Shafi’is say: It is not unlawful but reprehensible (makruh) to be bare without necessity.

    The Imamis, state: It is neither haram nor makruh when no one else is looking at.

    2. Woman and Her Maharim: The schools differ concerning the parts of the body a woman must cover in the presence of her maharim (except the husband) and Muslim women.(6) In other words, what constitutes the ‘awrah of a woman in the presence of Muslim women as well as her maharim, both through lineage and marriage?

    The Hanafis and the Shafi’is say: It is wajib for her to cover the area between the navel and the knees in their presence.

    The Malikis and the Hanbalis observe: She must cover the area between the navel and the knees in front of women, and in the presence of her maharim, her whole body except the head and the arms.

    Most Imamis state: It is wajib for her to cover her rear and private parts in the presence of women and her maharim; to cover other parts as well is better though not wajib, except where there is a fear of sin.

    3. Women and ‘stranger’: About the extent of the body to be covered by a woman in the presence of a ‘stranger’ (any male apart from the mahrim), the schools concur that it is wajib for her to cover her whole body except the face and hands (up to the wrists) in accordance with the verse 31 of Surat al-Nur:

    …And reveal not their adornment save such as is outward; and let them cast their veils over their bosoms (Qur’an 24:31)

    considering that ‘outward adornment’ (al-zeenah) implies the face and hands. The word ‘al-khimar’ (whose plural ‘khumur’ occurs in the verse) means the veil which covers the head, not the face, and the word ‘al-jayb’ (whose plural ‘juyub’ occurs in the verse) means the chest. The women have been commanded to put a covering on their heads and to lower it over their chests. As to verse 59 of Surat ‘Ahzab:

    ‘0 Prophet, say to your wives and daughters and the believing women that they draw their veils close to them…, (Qur’an 33:59)

    the word ‘al-jilbab’ (whose plural jalabib occurs in the verse) means a veil covering the head; rather it is a shirt or garment.

    4. Man’s ‘Awrah: The schools differ concerning the parts of man’s body which it is haram for others to see and for him to expose. The hanafis and the Hanbalis state: It is wajib for a male to cover the area between the navel and the knees before all except his wife. It is permissible for others, irrespective of their being men or women maharim or strangers, to look at the rest of his body when there is no fear of sin.

    The Malikis and the Shafi’is say: There are two different situations for a male with respect to the extent he can expose his body:

    the first, in the presence of men or those women who are his maharim; the second, in the presence of women who are not his maharim. In the former instance he is only supposed to cover the area between the waist and the knees, while in the latter it is, haram for a woman stranger to look at any
    part of a man’s body. Though the Malikis exclude the face and the arms if looked at without any sensual motive, the Shafi’is do not permit any exception (al-Fiqh ‘ala al-madhahib al’arba’ah, vol. mabhath satr al-’awrah).

    The Imamis differentiate between the parts of other person body which can be looked at and those parts of one’s own body which ought to be covered. They observe: It is wajib for a male to cover only his rear and private parts, though it is wajib for women who are not his maharim to abstain from looking at any part of his body except his head and hands (up to the wrist).

    To summarize the Imami opinion, it is permissible for a male to view the body of other men and his female maharim except the rear and private parts provided no sensual motive is involved. Similarly, a woman can view the body of other woman and her male maharim excepting the rear and private parts provided no sensual motive is involved.

    5. Children: Concerning the body of a child, the Hanbalis say: It is not prohibited to touch or look at the body of a child below seven years. It is not permissible to look at the rear and private parts of a male child between the age of 7 to 9 years, and for ‘strangers’ the whole body of a female child above the age of seven.

    The Hanafis observe: No part of the body of a boy of four years and below is prohibited from being looked at. Above this age only his rear and private parts are prohibited from being looked at as long as sexual desire has not awakened in him. If he reaches the age of sexual desire, the rule applicable to adults will be applicable to him with respect to both the sexes.

    The Malikis state: It is permissible for a woman to look at and touch the body of a boy below the age of eight years, and only look at it till the age of twelve. A boy above the age of twelve is considered similar to an adult. It is permissible for a man to look at and touch the body of girl below two years and eight months, and to look at, though not touch, till she reaches the age of four years.

    According to the Shafi’is, the rules applicable to an adult apply to an adolescent male child. But if a child is below that age and is also incapable of describing what he sees, all parts of his body can be looked at. But if he can describe what he sees with a sexual interest, he will be considered similar to an adult. As to a girl below the age of adolescence, only if she has developed sexual appeal will she be considered similar to a full-grown woman, not otherwise, though it will be haram for anyone except someone who looks after her to look at her parts.

    The Imamiyyah observe: It is wajib to cover one’s ‘awrah in front of a child of discriminating age, who can describe what he sees, though it is not wajib before the one who is incapable of doing so. That was regarding the covering of the body in the presence of a child, but with respect to looking at a child’s ‘awrah, al-Shaykh Ja’far in his book Kashf al-ghita’ states: It is not unwise to abstain from looking at the parts of a child below five years, though it is absolutely impermissible to look at them with a sexual interest.

    From what I have been able to ascertain from the traditions of the Ahlul Bayt, the age limit for the permissibility of looking at the child’s ‘awrah is six years, not five.

    6. Woman’s Voice: All the schools concur that listening to the voice of a woman is not prohibited, except where pleasure is involved or when there is a fear of sin. The (Imami) author of al-Jawahir, at the beginning of the chapter on marriage, has mentioned as his proof the continuing practice of Muslims belonging to different periods and regions, the sermons of Fatimah (sa) and her daughters, the innumerable instances of conversations of the wives of the Prophet (S) and the Imams, and also the holding of mourning and wedding ceremonies by women in the presence of men from early times, the conversations between opposite sexes while conducting transactions, as well as the Qur’anic verse (Be not complaisant (attractive) with your speech, 33:32), in which not speech itself but its complaisant manner has been prohibited.

    8. The difference Between Looking and Touching: Every part that is permissible to touch, may be looked at, and every part that is haram to be looked at may not be touched. Here there is a general consent among the schools because touching involves greater pleasure than looking, and no leggiest of any school claims concomitance between the permissibility of looking and the permissibility of touching.

    Hence though it is permissible for a man to look at a female stranger’s face or bands, it is not permissible for him to touch her except in an emergency such as for medical treatment or for rescuing her from drowning. The following tradition has been narrated from al-’Imam al-Sadiq (as) (Al-’Imam al-Sadiq (A) was asked:) “Can a man shake hands with a woman who is not his mahrim?”The Imam (A) replied: “No, unless there is cloth in between..”

    The Hanafis exclude shaking hands with an old woman from prohibition. In the book of Ibn ‘Abidin (v1, p284) it is stated: It is not permissible to touch the hands or face of a young woman even with the assurance of absence of any sexual motive. As to an old woman who has no sexual appeal, there is nothing wrong in shaking hands with her with the assurance of absence of a sexual motive.

    The Imamis and the Hanafis allow touching the body mahrim provided no sexual motive or pleasure is involved.

    The Shafi’is prohibit touching even those parts of a mahram’s body which it is permissible to look at. It is even not permissible in their opinion for a person to touch the belly or back of his mother, pinch her ankles or beet or kiss her face. Similarly, it is not permissible for a person to ask his daughter or sister to press his legs.

    9. The Difference Between Exposing and Looking at: The Imamis observe:

    There is no concomitance between the permissibility of exposing the body and the permissibility of looking at it. Hence it is permissible in their opinion for a man to expose the whole of his body except his rear and private parts, while it is not permissible for a non-mahram woman to look at it. I have not found anyone expressing this opinion in the numerous books of the four Sunni schools.

    10. Old Women: God Almighty says in the Qur’an:

    “And such women as are past child-bearing and have no hope of marriage, it is no sin for them if they put off their clothes, so be it that they flaunt no ornament; but to abstain is better for them, and God is All-hearing, All- knowing.”(Qur’an 24:60)

    This noble verse indicates that it is permissible for old women who have no desire for marriage due to their old age “to expose their face and a part of their hair and arms, and such other parts which aged women usually keep exposed. The traditions of the Ahlul Bayt (as) also point to the same, on condition that such exposure is not with the intent of display. Rather, it is to allow them to come out for fulfilling their needs, though it is better for them to keep themselves covered.”(7)

    This permission is with the assumption that it is not permissible to expose any of the above-mentioned parts of the body if there is fear of its leading to something haram, because a woman, regardless of her elderly age, may remain sexually attractive. Therefore, if there is any likelihood of that kind, the rule applicable to her will be the rule applicable to young women.

    Islam is lenient with respect to elderly women and strict regarding young women. But in practice we observe the opposite of what the Qur’an has ordered. We see shamelessness and display of charms among some young women, while elderly women keep themselves covered and are reserved. So where God is strict, they are lenient, and where He is lenient, they are strict.

    The Numbers that follow some of the words refer to notes that will appended in the coming issues in shaa Allah.

    http://www.al-islam.org/shiite-encyclopedia-ahlul-bayt-dilp-team/rules-modesty-according-five-islamic-schools-law

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  4. adilsud says:

    Regretfully, a Universal Cowardice..!!
    A resultant of Excessive Feminism, Declined Chivalry or Immoral Urbanism..?
    However, it is a fatal misconduction of misspelled modern vocabularies..!!
    للأسف ، ظاهرة عالمية للوضاعة
    هل هي مبالغة التأنيث ، تدهور الشهامة أم وضاعة التحضر
    على أية حال ، هي خطورة الترجمة الخاطئة لمفردات الحداثة

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  5. adilsud says:

    قال سلمان الفارسي رضى الله عنه : “إن الله إذا أراد بعبد هلاكا ، نزع منه الحياء ، فإذا نزع منه الحياء ، لم تلقه إلا مقيتا ممقتا، فإذا كان مقيتا ممقتا، نزع منه الأمانة ، فلم تلقه إلا خائنا مخونا ، فإذا كان خائنا مخونا ، نزع منه الرحمة ، فلم تلقه إلا فظا غليظا ، فإذا كان فظا غليظا ، نزع ربق الإيمان من عنقه ، فإذا نزع ربق الإيمان من عنقه لم تلقه إلا شيطانا لعينا ملعنا”

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