From Humans of New York’s photo:
“We were a two career family. I was a nuclear engineer. I designed shields for the fuel reactors on the first nuclear submarines. He was a carpenter.”
This resembles sociocultural facts that divide West from East.. A carpenter male married a nuclear engineer female.. Then 50 years later, they proudly acknowledge.. Such reality will never witness replica in the Middle East..
Systems of social and cultural qualities are different.. Getting close is not by closing an eye, but to understand the fitness of the system we have, or the bizarre one they do..!!
There is no Social Fitness in Islamic marriage.. but a moral one.. despite the by-default practices..!!
إذا جاءكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه
(Whenever a proposal comes from whoever you accept his morals and Deen, tie the knot)
However, I had addressed the “Love Marriage” not the forced one.. focusing on the preparedness for an educated and socially-superior female (from Morocco to Malaysia) to share love with a less-socially-fit male.. in her own eyes, not in eyes of others, whatsoever they are..
Basically, love will never grow between both, as taboos and stigmas will seize the marvelous passion from its spontaneous and free foundations.. Therefore, what we practice in this vast region is totally different from others.. We have a “Controlled Love” phenomenon.. which had been enforced further by religion, casts and doctrines.. However and generally, the oriental love is apart from sexism in most cases.. due to the same reasons..
My issue is about being solid and transparent with one’s self, not driven by or echoing controversial mindset or irrational ideas..
It is a part of a call for social and intellectual governance to rule..